Most of us plan a big reward for that day when we reach our weight goal. Maybe it’s a vacation to a dream destination that we’ve always wanted to take. Maybe it’s a whole new wardrobe. Maybe it’s a day at a theme park, or maybe it’s engaging in that activity with friends, children, or grandchildren that our former limitations kept us from.
If money were no object, and life circumstances were no problem, what would your ideal day look like? Start at the beginning and put your ideal day together. Where would you wake up? When would you wake up, what time of day? Who would be there with you? What would you do first thing, if anything?
Do you give yourself credit for all of the skills you develop, all of the thoughts you turn around, and all of the behaviors you change? One of our biggest challenges as human beings is to give ourselves credit for our accomplishments. We tend to focus on our challenges, on what we can’t do, or on what we don’t like about ourselves. One research study showed that 70% of our spontaneous thoughts are negative. So, we have to make a deliberate choice to focus on the positive in order to beat that statistic. And I not only believe we can retrain our attention from negative to positive, I know it to be true because I’ve done it for myself.
About 17 years ago I got a puppy. Elsa was just so cute and so full of life! Before her, I had a dog named Nikki and I lived in the country, so we kind of trained each other in a loose, informal way of communicating and bonding. This time, with Elsa, I was living in the city, so I decided I would train her more formally to respond to commands.
Last week, I went to a birthday party and I had a really good time. There were lots of people, some I knew and some I didn’t know. The conversations were lively, fun, and positive. Food and drink were abundant, the music was familiar, and we all were happy to celebrate the person who was having the birthday. I had fun in the moment, and I want to keep that feeling going!
Some of the things I do to bring that party feeling into the present include, playing the same music so it triggers my memories, keeping in touch with the people who were at the party, and sharing pictures or looking at pictures other people have shared of the party.
Oh please! Really? (I can see your eyes rolling at me.) Dieting, exercise, weight management – fun? Am I out of my mind?
Yes! Yes! Yes! I’m out of my mind! I’m purposely changing my mind about how hard it is to lose/gain weight. I’m changing my mind about any negative feelings I have about exercise. I’m out of my former mind and into a new one!
That’s the great thing about being human and about having a mind – we get to change it. We get to choose what to think. We get to choose our attitude. We get to choose how to approach our life, our day, our projects, and our bodies.
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