Once upon a time, my Dad told us about a book he read where the author said he was inspired to give thanks for everything, especially the ‘bad’ or challenging things in his life. So, my Dad tried this out one day when he was driving down the main commercial street in his neighborhood. This street had a traffic light at nearly every block and, as was usually the case, he was hitting every red light. He started saying, “thank you for the red light, thank you for the red light, thank you for the red light,” at every corner. Pretty soon, instead of being frustrated and angry, he was laughing!
No matter what food plan we’ve chosen to follow, whether it’s a strict diet that eliminates certain types of food, or a plan that allows everything in limited portions, at some point we find that we deprive ourselves of some type of food. We seem to have no self-control or ability to stop when it comes to that particular food. Quite often, we use that food as a reward for reaching a milestone weight, or for having done something over and above our normal exercise routine.
I’ve decided I need to lose weight and I want to lose weight. I’m excited about the diet program I just enrolled in or the plan I just started. For the first few weeks I follow the plan to the letter and I see results! Hooray! The weight loss in the first few weeks is dramatic and I feel like all my hard work and all these changes are worth it.
In The Main Meal Weight Management Support program, we’re taking an honest look at our habits and our self-talk. We dig deep to find places within ourselves for opportunities to feel more positive and to change our thinking about our bodies and our abilities. More and more often throughout our days we are finding ourselves aware of our strengths and seeing many more options for action and choice than we’ve ever seen before. Little by little, and sometimes by leaps and bounds, we are finding our joy!
"Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future." - Paul Boese
Let’s talk about setting ourselves free through forgiveness. Let’s start with a look outward and then work our way in. I’ve often talked about the “three strikes and you’re out” moments I experienced when I had reached my goal weight but subsequently received very negative feedback from 3 very important people in my life. One of those people was my mother. She said she thought I would have gotten back into all my old habits and just put the weight back on again. I worked very hard to come to an understanding of why she would say that to me and to forgive her for the hurt I felt at her lack of support for me.
In a previous blog I talked about making joyful choices. In this blog I am suggesting we can practice being good to ourselves, so I thought we should revisit that topic. Before, I described an exercise our choir director has us do where we feel the energy in our bodies before we sing the words. While it’s hard to describe that exercise in words, the idea of sensing our choices in our body is how we practice choosing joy. Feel it in your body. Hear it in your mind. Sense it within you and then duplicate those feelings, thoughts and sensations when choosing.
Everybody has something they never want to do, think, feel or experience again. What is your past experience that you ‘never’ want to have? We usually say we never want to do or feel something again because the experience was intensely unpleasant. However, there are a couple of dynamics to using the ‘never’ language. Some would say we doom ourselves to having that experience come around for us again just because we’ve taken such a forceful and bold stance against it. I don’t think it’s inevitable that we will attract that situation to ourselves just by affirming we will never go there again. But by observation, we have to admit it happens quite often.
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