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Monday, 30 December 2019 11:11

Positive Self-Talk

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Imagine you are sitting on the floor watching an adorable baby trying to pull herself up and stand on her own. When she can’t quite do it and falls back down you look at her and say, “You stupid baby! You’ll never learn to stand up on your own. You don’t want it enough and don’t have the will-power to keep trying!”

We would never say those things to a baby, but we say them to ourselves all the time! We tend to get caught up in making judgments about ourselves and the food we eat. We call ourselves weak, failures, unable, doomed for life. But is that really true? Are you a failure? Do you raise children? Do you hold down a job? Have you been in a long-term relationship? Do you have close ties to your family, whether that be birth family or family of choice? Are you good at math? Are you good at making things? Are you a terrific cook?

None of us is a failure. We are better at some things than at others, and by better, I mean more skilled, more practiced. We tend to focus on the things we feel we are bad at and reinforce those feelings of inadequacy. However, in the same way we would encourage this baby to keep trying and praise every attempt as a job well done, we can teach ourselves to new behaviors by reinforcing our positives.

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Betty Brink

Betty Brink is an expert on the mental and emotional aspects of dieting and body image. She is the author of "The Main Meal: The New Perspective on Weight Loss." In seminars, speeches, and consultations, she demonstrates practical methods to quiet the diet chatter, and to empower yourself to make conscious choices in diet, in life, and in relationships.

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