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Monday, 06 January 2020 11:11

Releasing Judgment

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We want to be aware of the judgments we make on a regular basis. Part of reinforcing our positives is taking the judgment not only off ourselves, but off the inanimate objects around us, such as food. There is nothing intrinsically good or bad in food. What we eat is always our choice. And like any other choice we make, there are consequences and responsibilities that come with our choices of food. But to say “I can’t eat cake because it’s a bad food” is wrong on a couple of levels. You certainly can eat cake. It’s always your choice.

Choosing to eat cake has a consequence. For me, it causes indigestion. This is not to say I never eat cake. Sometimes I do, and I make the choice consciously and joyfully. I love cake! It tastes good! I’m willing to put up with the indigestion for the pure joy of having a piece of cake. Now and then. It’s a choice I make infrequently, but I don’t think of cake as bad. And I don’t live with the unrealistic expectation of myself that I will never eat cake again in my life.

So how does this reinforce the positive traits in me. Instead of thinking, “Oh I ate a piece of cake, I’ll never lose weight, I’m a failure,” I think, “I made a conscious choice to have a piece of cake, I’m happy with that choice, and I am practicing my ability to take the judgment off of food.”

Making conscious choices puts us in the driver’s seat. We are not at the mercy of our body, of our metabolism, of the food, or of anything or anyone else. We get to choose how we feel about ourselves when we sit down to dinner. We get to choose what we put on our plates and in our bodies.

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Betty Brink

Betty Brink is an expert on the mental and emotional aspects of dieting and body image. She is the author of "The Main Meal: The New Perspective on Weight Loss." In seminars, speeches, and consultations, she demonstrates practical methods to quiet the diet chatter, and to empower yourself to make conscious choices in diet, in life, and in relationships.
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