Choosing to eat cake has a consequence. For me, it causes indigestion. This is not to say I never eat cake. Sometimes I do, and I make the choice consciously and joyfully. I love cake! It tastes good! I’m willing to put up with the indigestion for the pure joy of having a piece of cake. Now and then. It’s a choice I make infrequently, but I don’t think of cake as bad. And I don’t live with the unrealistic expectation of myself that I will never eat cake again in my life.
So how does this reinforce the positive traits in me. Instead of thinking, “Oh I ate a piece of cake, I’ll never lose weight, I’m a failure,” I think, “I made a conscious choice to have a piece of cake, I’m happy with that choice, and I am practicing my ability to take the judgment off of food.”
Making conscious choices puts us in the driver’s seat. We are not at the mercy of our body, of our metabolism, of the food, or of anything or anyone else. We get to choose how we feel about ourselves when we sit down to dinner. We get to choose what we put on our plates and in our bodies.