Betty's Thoughts, Articles & Resources
Monday, 11 May 2020 11:11

Am I On a Deadline?

Written by

“I want to drop 10 pounds before my class reunion in X months.”

“I’m going on a trip next summer and I want to lose 25 pounds by then.”

Have any of you ever made a statement like that, or set a goal with a deadline? Setting a deadline to hit a weight loss goal can be very complex. We are making changes that we want to last for a lifetime. We are changing the way we talk to ourselves, the way we think about food, the way we view our bodies, and the way we make choices on a day to day basis. We are changing our go-to thoughts and go-to actions on a fundamental level.

The caution in setting time deadlines is the potential for setting ourselves up for failure. If I want to lose 25 pounds in the next three months, my mind instantly starts doing the math. That means I have 12 weeks, so that’s a little more than 2 pounds per week. At the end of the first month I should have lost 8 pounds, 16 by the end of month two, and reach that goal by the end of the third month. Now I have a ‘minimum’ necessary standard every single week. And any week that I don’t meet that, I feel like I’ve fallen behind.

So, what do we do with this? Number one is awareness. Listen to how you are talking to yourself about your progress toward your goal and try to move to the more positive thoughts about yourself. Number two is to call on your cheerleader. Tap on that person to talk through your emotions and feelings and ask them to help you put this in perspective. Number three is to make it fun! We are doing this because we love and value ourselves. We are doing this because we cherish the joyful, playful beings we truly are.

After all, the main meal of this life isn’t the process of shaping the package. The main meal is cherishing each and every wonderous experience that shows up in front of us and living those experiences with joy and gratitude.

Read 84 times Last modified on Saturday, 21 March 2020 16:19
Betty Brink

Betty Brink is an expert on the mental and emotional aspects of dieting and body image. She is the author of "The Main Meal: The New Perspective on Weight Loss." In seminars, speeches, and consultations, she demonstrates practical methods to quiet the diet chatter, and to empower yourself to make conscious choices in diet, in life, and in relationships.

Leave a comment

Make sure you enter all the required information, indicated by an asterisk (*). HTML code is not allowed.

By entering this website or purchasing or using the blog, e-mails, videos, newsletter, programs, services, and/or products from or related to “The Main Meal: The New Perspective on Weight Loss” and/or participating in The Weight Management Group by Betty Brink you are agreeing to accept all parts of our disclaimer. Learn More »»

Get updates, news, articles, resources, exercises, activities and more!