In order to get out of a mentality that it’s either all or nothing, good or bad, yes or no, we have to really be aware of what other options are available to us. Along with staying aware that we have multiple options in any given situation, we want to also be aware of which part of us is making the choice of one thing over another.
Relating it to weight loss and food habits, do you ever engage in closet eating? Do you try to eat when no one else is around? How long have you been doing that? Can you think back to someone or something that made you feel ashamed of what you were eating?
When we make choices based on our feelings of hurt and shame at another person’s words or actions, we choose shame and judgment over honesty and self-love. Their past words and actions are driving our current choices. But we are free to choose other reactions to those same incidents. Taking responsibility for our reactions gives us the freedom to take the judgment off what we eat, when we eat, and how we eat. Taking the choice back into our own hands, we bring our power to it, and we can live our lives in the light of honesty and awareness, instead of hiding in the darkness of guilt and embarrassment.
The more we can be aware that we choose our own responses and feelings, the more we can become aware of the limitless options available to us. With each new level of awareness, with each wider field of possibilities, we can make informed choices that promote our joy and enhance our lives.