When I first launched my book, I was showing slides of different types of food and asking the audience to judge them as good food or bad food. I had a picture of a big, juicy hamburger on the screen and a little boy in audience spoke up and said, “Dee-LISH-us!” We all laughed, but he made my point that there are lots of ways to think about food, and lots of ways to think about the choices we make.
I had a friend who used to say that true love was indifference. The concept he was trying to convey was that true love is the ability to accept another person without judgment. The greatest love of all is to be totally indifferent to the choices they make and how they choose to live their life, without a need to change them or alter them in any way. I would use the word “acceptance” instead of “indifference,” but you get the meaning.
In talking about choices and how we judge them, first we need to find as many ways to look at a choice as possible. In the end, we need to see that regardless of our instinct to judge the choices we make, they are just choices. We learn and grow from them whatever the outcome. When we can be accepting/indifferent to the consequences, then we are totally accepting of ourselves as thinking, loving, entities who have the tremendously exciting capacity to make infinite choices!