But let’s talk about the smaller choices we make each and every moment of the day. The ones that slip under the radar and whose consequences we may take for granted or not notice at all. Take, for instance, a commute to work. It used to drive me crazy. I used to resent the time spent commuting because it took away from my free time.
Looking closer, I had to admit that I chose to live where I did, I chose to remain in the job I was working at, and on a grander scale, I chose to move from a much smaller city to San Diego where traffic is notorious.
When I began to see that everything that resulted in my commute were choices I would make again, freely and willingly, then in all honesty I had to change my attitude toward the commute. “It” wasn’t making me crazy. I was making myself crazy by choosing to resent something which was a consequence of all my other happy choices.
We are here because we want to change our body size. Most people would consider those to be positive, life affirming choices. Do you feel like it shouldn’t be this hard to lose or gain weight? Do you feel a little bit stupid/slow/ashamed that you can’t just stick to the plan and go straight to your goal weight without setbacks?
These attitudes don’t come up from nowhere. We choose to allow these attitudes and resentments to have part of our energy. We actually practice these attitudes anytime we give them space to linger in our minds. We choose to treat ourselves badly by allowing these thoughts to linger. The work this week is to become conscious of the choices we make, own the choices we make, live the consequences out loud, and treat ourselves with respect and honesty.