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Monday, 22 June 2020 11:11

Deadlines: Deadly or Motivating?

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Let’s explore timeless goals a little more. When is a timeless goal good, and when is it permission to do nothing? Does an open-ended time frame for weight loss feel overwhelming to you? Do you thrive on having a due date, or rebel against it?

The book I wrote was my story. Taking the timer off the goal gave me the freedom to explore every aspect of myself as deeply and as thoroughly as I could. But each person is different. We have to find that balance that works for us. Maybe you want to have interim timers right along with interim goals. Maybe you want to dedicate one year to working hard at learning some new principles and new thoughts, and then take it easy on yourself, and do things more slowly after that.

There’s no right or wrong way to do this. There are probably as many ways to work with deadlines as there are people trying to lose weight. What we want to understand is that working on changes in thought, attitude, and belief does not lend itself to hard and fast deadlines. And so maybe we can allow our physical goals not to have hard and fast deadlines either.

If we set a deadline, we want to be sure it encourages us to keep at it. We want the deadlines to be supportive, loving, encouraging, and motivating. We want the freedom to move them when, and if, necessary. We want them to be our deadlines. No one else’s. Nobody else can dictate how long it ‘should’ take you to talk nice to yourself, or change your old habits of negative self-talk to positive affirmations, or to stop feeling the unfairness of your body’s metabolism. This is our path, these are our steps, our way stations, and our end goals.

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Betty Brink

Betty Brink is an expert on the mental and emotional aspects of dieting and body image. She is the author of "The Main Meal: The New Perspective on Weight Loss." In seminars, speeches, and consultations, she demonstrates practical methods to quiet the diet chatter, and to empower yourself to make conscious choices in diet, in life, and in relationships.

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