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When I first started writing “The Main Meal: The New Perspective on Weight Loss,” I truly thought I was writing a how-to book about a different way to lose weight. I thought I would present step by step instructions for how to lose weight by being kind to yourself. What I found through the years, was the book was never about losing weight, but about learning to be kind to myself and feeling like I deserved that kindness. My end goal for the book changed.

There is no badge of honor in sticking to a goal if it’s no longer meaningful to us. In my pre-teen and teen years I was athletic. I played on school softball teams and was always outside hiking and walking. Later in life, when I became less active and started putting on weight, I could never get myself to stick to an exercise plan. If I wasn’t playing a game or honing a skill, I didn’t see the point of making all that effort.

The last couple of blogs have been about working toward our goals in each ‘now’ moment, staying present to our thoughts and choices, rather than placing our focus in the future. We looked at being aware of our negative self-talk, turning that talk to positive affirmations, and taking the judgment off our choices in general and off the food we choose to eat.

We have the choice to change our focus and change our goals as often or as little as we want. This is our life and we can’t get it wrong. We get as many revisions, rewrites and do-overs as there are seconds in the day. The whole idea of setting a goal and striving for it is to have that goal support us in some way. It is important that we regularly look at our goals to see if the result we are striving for is important to us and is supporting our path to a joyful, self-confident life.

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Betty Brink

Betty Brink is an expert on the mental and emotional aspects of dieting and body image. She is the author of "The Main Meal: The New Perspective on Weight Loss." In seminars, speeches, and consultations, she demonstrates practical methods to quiet the diet chatter, and to empower yourself to make conscious choices in diet, in life, and in relationships.

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