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Monday, 13 July 2020 11:11

The Name Game

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As early as I can remember, someone in my family was always making up names for things or making a play on someone’s name to make it funny. For example, my dad used to refer to my high school Home Economics teacher as Sister Mary Sewing Machine.

We already know that the things we say to ourselves have power. In the same way, the names we give ourselves and the names we give our activities have power. If we are truly making changes in order to bring more joy to our lives, then we should give ourselves the freedom and the gift of playing with those names. I played with affirmations for a while. “I undergrow my clothes.” And when I was deciding that I could manifest a smaller body it became my “manifest less-tiny.”

The harder something is for us to do, or the more we struggle with something, the more that becomes the place to play the name game as a way to lighten up. A key place to use this technique is with the hurtful words that are used universally. Words like “fat” and “pleasantly plump.” Any others you can think of?

We want to take the sting out of these words to get to a place where they are just neutral for us. I’m not suggesting we go into denial about them. I can own the fact that my body is fat. I am not fat, I’m Betty. Fat means my body is larger than the accepted standard for my height and bone structure. It does not mean lazy, sloppy, failure, weak, stupid, or disgusting. For me, fat’s just fat, and my body may be, but I’m not that. I made a rhyme that keeps me centered and objective and makes me laugh.

Our goal this week is to find the things that seem hard or hurtful and give them names or descriptions that take the sting away. We want to find a different way of looking at things and words so that they become our allies instead of our enemies. If we can remember to affirm our own true personal nature as “good” then everything becomes easier and more joyful.

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Betty Brink

Betty Brink is an expert on the mental and emotional aspects of dieting and body image. She is the author of "The Main Meal: The New Perspective on Weight Loss." In seminars, speeches, and consultations, she demonstrates practical methods to quiet the diet chatter, and to empower yourself to make conscious choices in diet, in life, and in relationships.

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