Displaying items by tag: Be Good To Yourself

In The Main Meal Weight Management Support program, we’re taking an honest look at our habits and our self-talk. We dig deep to find places within ourselves for opportunities to feel more positive and to change our thinking about our bodies and our abilities. More and more often throughout our days we are finding ourselves aware of our strengths and seeing many more options for action and choice than we’ve ever seen before. Little by little, and sometimes by leaps and bounds, we are finding our joy!

"Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future." - Paul Boese

Let’s talk about setting ourselves free through forgiveness. Let’s start with a look outward and then work our way in. I’ve often talked about the “three strikes and you’re out” moments I experienced when I had reached my goal weight but subsequently received very negative feedback from 3 very important people in my life. One of those people was my mother. She said she thought I would have gotten back into all my old habits and just put the weight back on again. I worked very hard to come to an understanding of why she would say that to me and to forgive her for the hurt I felt at her lack of support for me.

In a previous blog I talked about making joyful choices. In this blog I am suggesting we can practice being good to ourselves, so I thought we should revisit that topic. Before, I described an exercise our choir director has us do where we feel the energy in our bodies before we sing the words. While it’s hard to describe that exercise in words, the idea of sensing our choices in our body is how we practice choosing joy. Feel it in your body. Hear it in your mind. Sense it within you and then duplicate those feelings, thoughts and sensations when choosing.

Everybody has something they never want to do, think, feel or experience again. What is your past experience that you ‘never’ want to have? We usually say we never want to do or feel something again because the experience was intensely unpleasant. However, there are a couple of dynamics to using the ‘never’ language. Some would say we doom ourselves to having that experience come around for us again just because we’ve taken such a forceful and bold stance against it. I don’t think it’s inevitable that we will attract that situation to ourselves just by affirming we will never go there again. But by observation, we have to admit it happens quite often.