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Let’s take a little closer look at the content of our conversations. What are we talking about with our family, with our co-workers, with our friends, and with our children? What are we saying to ourselves on a regular basis? Do you know that inside voice that’s making judgments about every thought we have and every action we take? Don’t all these conversations deserve some kindness and love?

In the past couple of blogs we have taken time to become more aware of our conversations. We have identified which conversations we want to continue to have because they are already joyful. We’ve been working on ways to transform our more challenging conversations so they are more in alignment with our core values and with the way we want to design our lives. Now it’s time to start practicing the joy!

Now that you’ve been tracking the conversations you have with other people and the conversations you have internally with yourself, it’s time to do a little check-in. Were you surprised by anything you observed? Were you encouraged?

It’s easier for us to identify the things we perceive as negative than the things we perceive as positive. It’s important to honor our feelings about all of it. We want to give ourselves as much credit for the positive observations as we do for the negative ones. Because right now what we’re looking for is information that we can use.

Try a little experiment right now. Go get a bottle or glass of water and put it on the table next to you. Pick it up and put it back down. Now, pick it up and hold it away from your body for several minutes before putting it back down.

It’s easy to pick up a glass of water and put it down. If we pick up that same glass of water and hold it up away from our body for several minutes, it becomes more difficult. If we held it up for 30 minutes it might actually hurt. The weight of the glass of water held for a long time has a cumulative effect. It strains our muscles and weighs us down.