Everybody has something they never want to do, think, feel or experience again. What is your past experience that you ‘never’ want to have? We usually say we never want to do or feel something again because the experience was intensely unpleasant. However, there are a couple of dynamics to using the ‘never’ language. Some would say we doom ourselves to having that experience come around for us again just because we’ve taken such a forceful and bold stance against it. I don’t think it’s inevitable that we will attract that situation to ourselves just by affirming we will never go there again. But by observation, we have to admit it happens quite often.
From a friend, “You don’t look good. You look sick!” (I was at goal weight.)
From a health food store clerk, “You might want to try this product along with those sunflower seeds. It’s a fat blocker.” (I was overweight)
The underlying basis of The Main Meal Weight Management Support is to help us find our joy. Everything we do, every change we make, every habit we continue, and every new habit we form is done to move us further on our journey to self-esteem, happiness, loving our bodies, and embracing our beautiful selves.
As early as I can remember, someone in my family was always making up names for things or making a play on someone’s name to make it funny. For example, my dad used to refer to my high school Home Economics teacher as Sister Mary Sewing Machine.
We have talked about near-term and long-term goals this month. What happens when we are getting close to achieving that goal. It was at a weight loss group when I first heard about the idea of fear of success. I remember the leader talking about people who were in the program and just couldn’t lose the last 5 pounds. They couldn’t get to the goal because they were afraid of what that would mean in their life.
When I first started writing “The Main Meal: The New Perspective on Weight Loss,” I truly thought I was writing a how-to book about a different way to lose weight. I thought I would present step by step instructions for how to lose weight by being kind to yourself. What I found through the years, was the book was never about losing weight, but about learning to be kind to myself and feeling like I deserved that kindness. My end goal for the book changed.
Let’s explore timeless goals a little more. When is a timeless goal good, and when is it permission to do nothing? Does an open-ended time frame for weight loss feel overwhelming to you? Do you thrive on having a due date, or rebel against it?
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