“I want to drop 10 pounds before my class reunion in X months.”
“I’m going on a trip next summer and I want to lose 25 pounds by then.”
Have any of you ever made a statement like that, or set a goal with a deadline? Setting a deadline to hit a weight loss goal can be very complex. We are making changes that we want to last for a lifetime. We are changing the way we talk to ourselves, the way we think about food, the way we view our bodies, and the way we make choices on a day to day basis. We are changing our go-to thoughts and go-to actions on a fundamental level.
As much as we are eager to make changes that will make our lives better and happier, the people around us can be threatened by our changes. Very often, the people closest to us want us to remain the same. They will often think that our desire to change ourselves, implies that we want them to change also.
Continuing with our theme of “Change,” we talked about the fact that, on some level, all of us are here to make changes. We will make some physical changes to our bodies and we want to make some changes of habit. We talked about not trying to change all at once, but to take it in small, incremental pieces, and to be sure we have some support and guidance while we are making those changes.
Each of us comes to weight management with our own set of unique goals. Some of those goals are short and easy. Others are long-term goals and may seem more intimidating. The thing we all have in common is that in order to meet our goals, we have to make some changes.
How does it feel to backslide? And that can mean anything from actually gaining weight to having a week where we feel like we’ve really been getting with the program, but the results on the scale don’t reflect that. Maybe we lost weight, but not as much as we thought we should have. What kinds of feelings do we have and what thoughts go through our heads?
Holidays, birthdays, and special events are happy times. They are celebrations and causes for joy. The challenge for those of us who struggle with weight is that, for the most part, the celebrations include food – and lots of it!
One of the biggest challenges we face is whether or not to “announce” that we are starting a diet or trying to make changes for ourselves. It can be a very vulnerable thing to do.
There is a certain accountability value that goes into sharing, with at least one person, the fact that we are taking on a challenge or setting a goal. It’s important to have a witness to our efforts and validation for the challenges we face and overcome. The first person we share with should be someone we trust to accept us just as we are. This person is going to become our cheerleader when we need one the most.
Let’s talk about what’s on your plate. I don’t mean what’s on your dinner plate, but what are your real life challenges in the form of situations, people or events that cause you stress, worry, frustration, anticipation. Think of anything that interrupts your normally calm, serene, Zen personality. It doesn’t matter if they are ongoing or one-off.
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